One mistake a lot of men and women make is trying to be someone they’re not to be more attractive. When you realize that you are loved then you will be. It’s the seeking love and approval paradigm that keeps love separate. Understand that by being authentic and loving yourself others will love you too. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don’t love yourself you will expect to be rejected by others, and if you are not then you think you must have tricked them to believe that you are someone you are not. This kind of cycle makes you lose confidence.
We live in an abundant universe. All you need to do is make the choice to anticipate love being reciprocated instead of letting the fear of rejection drive you to put on a facade. Being “Real” is just being natural and comfortable with yourself as you are, and not trying to change your behavior to please others. Stay centered in who you are. It’s about having the mindset of abundance. This creates a win-win situation in a relationship, because instead feeling like you’re worthless and you’d be lucky to be loved. You can just relax and trust that you are lovable by being genuine, real, authentic, natural, optimistic, and sincere.
You might ask, “How do I be myself? I don’t know who I am.” From my experience it’s not about knowing who you are so much as who you are not. As we strip away layers of the ego we get to the core of who and what we are. Beyond all the thoughts, games, limiting beliefs, hopes and fears is our true self. It’s that pure awareness that you exist. From this place you don’t claim to be anything. You simply are. When we stop trying to prove ourselves we become very attractive. Meditation is a great way to release negativity, let go of resistance, become more present to the moment, stop seeking validation, and eliminate selfishness.
I’m constantly looking for ways to better myself by learning new information to improve my attitude, skills, and life. That’s an important part of being human as I see it. I choose to constantly evolve by educating myself through videos, books, quotes, and personal experiences. When it all comes down to it you need to think for yourself. You can find great benefit from hearing different points of view, although in the end, it’s all about what makes sense and works for you.